Rebuilding when your relationship ends

Learning Objectives

After completing this course you’ll be able to:

Chapter 1: The Rebuilding Blocks

  1. Describe the rebuilding blocks model and identify the nineteen specific feelings and attitudes that make the model.

Chapter 2: Denial

  1. List all the wrong reasons for which many people get married.
  1. Ask questions that may help you recognize the ending of an unhappy relationship.

Chapter 3: Fear

  1. Make a list of fears that people face in the divorce process.

Chapter 4: Adaptation

  1. Explain how unhealthy adaptation strategies cause relationships to collapse.

Chapter 5: Loneliness

  1. Describe the three stages of loneliness.

Chapter 6: Friendship

  1. Identify four reasons for which we tend to lose friends once the marriage ends.

Chapter 7: Guilt/Rejection

  1. Distinguish between appropriate guilt and free-floating guilt.

Chapter 8: Grief

  1. Describe the problems associated with grief.
  2. Explain five stages of grief.

Chapter 9: Anger

  1. Explain the three phases of the anger rebuilding block.
  2. Distinguish between appropriate and aggressive anger.
  3. Develop assertive anger expression attitudes.

Chapter 10: Letting Go

  1. Explain why it is important to let go and identify factors that make it difficult to let go.

Chapter 11: Self-Worth

  1. Describe eleven steps to greater self-esteem.

Chapter 12: Transition

  1. Identify four leftover issues from the past that may hinder transition for the separated spouse.
  2. Describe three stages of childhood behavior and point out typical vocabulary and behavior of each stage.

Chapter 13: Openness

  1. Describe how masks can distance you emotionally from others and identify appropriate and inappropriate masks.

Chapter 14: Love

  1. Define love and distinguish between mature and immature love.
  2. Describe six types of love.

Chapter 15: Trust

  1. Explain the two major steps in the divorce adjustment process.
  2. Describe seven styles of relationship.

Chapter 16: Relatedness

  1. Identify typical characteristics of growing relationships.
  2. Describe the pitfalls and benefits of passionate, emotional relationships.

Chapter 17: Sexuality

  1. Describe the common sexual situations a divorced partner encounters and suggest ways to handle them.

Chapter 18: Singleness

  1. Describe the joys and challenges of being single.

Chapter 19: Purpose

  1. Use the exercise of lifeline to set goals.

Appendix A: Kids Are Tougher Than You Think

  1. Identify seven stumbling blocks children face as they make the climb up the divorce recovery mountain.

Appendix B: The Healing Separation

  1. List guidelines for a successful healing separation.